A Marriage is a Mezuzah
by Rabbi Dovid Eidensohn
A marriage, like a Mezuzah, brings the Schechina into the home. A husband and wife who are together unite the heaven and earth and bring the holy Presence of the Schechina into their home, just like a mezuzah. And just like a mezuzah, the marriage must be kosher, exactly as a kosher mezuzah is supposed to be. If a letter is missing, the mezuzah is posul and invalid.
In a marriage, a missing letter, a missing harmony, drives away the holiness of the Schechina. Inside a home, we go about our lives. Sometimes, we get upset and act with anger, maybe even shout. That is frightening to the Presence of Holiness, and it leaves. A fight among a couple can tear the heavenly formations of Holy Names.
The rebbe of the Radvaz, Rebbe Dovid Sarguso of Tsefas Israel, merited to see Elijah the Prophet at a certain well. He was especially concerned about Shalom Bayis, so much so, that he made peace even among the Arabs. Can we imagine a venerable saint living to two Arabs with their bitter complaints in order to make peace? Perhaps he understands why because he is so holy, and we, who are not so holy, are far from comprehending. What a human, in the image of G-d, can do with peace or undo with anger, is known only to heaven and the holy people of this world. The rest of us, however, can be careful how we behave. We don't want to come to heaven in a hundred and twenty years and find out just why we should have acted differently during a family fight.
Nobody would yell at a mezuzah. Why do we yell at our spouse, when the Schechina is listening?